Sunday, March 17, 2013

Another "interesting" parent

We blogged yesterday about the verdict in the High Court trial of a Tauranga mother accused of the manslaughter of her teenaged daughters. Today Kerre McIvor has uncovered another case of odd parental priorities; she opines:

The father of a 15-year-old injured in a car accident in the early hours of last Sunday has lashed out at emergency services staff, accusing them of teenage accident fatigue.
Brian Davey says that ambulance staff who attended a car crash, in which his son was a passenger, initially thought his son was drunk and didn't diagnose his head injury until the boy was in the ambulance.
In an astonishing outburst, Davey says the ambulance staff treated the incident so lightly the attending police officer didn't think it worth contacting family members. Maybe, Davey went on, emergency services are suffering teenage accident fatigue and really don't care any more.
What he was quoted as saying next was even more remarkable.
"It makes me sick, the rank hypocrisy of the adult world, pointing their finger and standing on their little pulpits. But we've all done it ourselves when we were kids. So I feel in no position at all to stand up and take these kids to task, especially living in a world where it's generally deemed to be cool to be tooling around in fast cars and drinking flash beer.
"It's pushed down our throats, far more than it was in my day, and we wonder why they crash off the road drunk."
Wow. That's father-of-the-year stuff, right there.

Mrs McIvor is dead right. We have nothing but admiration for emergency services workers who do an often thankless job cleaning up after people's mistakes. And having worked in the health sector, we've seen how abusive injured drunks can be.

So Mr Davey needs to respectfully pull his head in, and save his vitriol for whoever put his son's life in danger. McIvor suggests that he might when he pauses for reflection; read on:

I'm hoping it was just the stress and worry that comes with a child being admitted to hospital that was behind the comments and that in the cool light of day, given that his boy is recovering well, he'll realise what an idiot he sounds.
Where was he at 3.30 last Sunday morning? He wasn't driving out to the accident, fearing the worst. No, that was the police and the ambulance staff. Was he the one being dicked around by his son's two mates, both of whom were over the limit? No, that would be the police, who described his son's mates as dorks. Apparently, both boys thought they were ever so clever by not remembering who was driving. The police have said they'll charge both unless the real driver confesses.
Davey is not the one who has to pick mangled remains out of crushed cars, trying to find some sort of identification, so we can know who was once a person. He's not the one who has to visit a family and deliver the worst possible news and deal with the raw, dreadful grief of a parent who's lost a child.
He doesn't have to put aside his fury and his frustration at being called out to yet another crash where a young, speeding drunk-driver has ruined the lives of innocent people.
Davey's son was taken from a car driven by one of his drunk mates, put in an ambulance and given appropriate treatment. He should be making a substantial donation to St John instead of slagging them off.
Because, by crikey, if emergency services were suffering from teenage accident fatigue I wouldn't blame them one bit. The fact they treat even the most odious little dickhead with compassion and respect is testament to their professionalism and patience.

It's hard to disagree with any of that, especially the final paragraph. Mr Davey needs to remember why his son is in the situation he is in, and consider whether his own attitude towards young drink drivers may have had something to do with it. 

2 comments:

Monique Angel said...

Wow. Those kids have no chance to learn the values of respect and moderation that will pull them out of the darkest places of teenage angst.

paul scott said...

There is no way I would report anybody to the collective idiot Police, absolutely no way, not ever,